After months of observing and thoughfull consideration, interviewing people about why do and don't you have social media. I finally decide to disable mine. The first one was BBM, nearly a year ago. Then Facebook, the month before Ramadhan 2018. Lately, my Instagram account. I couldn't disable WhatsApp as this is a crucial medium for daily communication, but still I selectively chose the audience.
Those months of observing, I find out silly and widely acceptable phenomenons that makes me cringe.
Society Standards
The first thing that comes up as the society standard, IS THE GOOD ONE! The bright side. Light is easy to love, but darkness? Some people choose to cover it, fix it, or dance with it. I don't claim that one of those choice is better than the others. Every choice has it's own battle and consequences. However, I'm done enough seeing people widely accept "Fix it" as the best and the must be done choice. Some people choose to dance with their darkness, you know! See deeper for the reason of why they do it. Not all darkness are easily able to be covered or fixed. Damaged people could take the opportunity by dancing with it for a good deed. It takes big guts to fight your darkness. And to dance with it, it needs even bigger one! And it's completely okay if a person choose to dance with it. If it doesn't harm you, why bother directing other people to only see the bright side? Are you able to see from dark side as well? What would you get? Heaven? Ohhhh.... man! We're living in hell already!
Public Image and Profiling
Such a shame that I found out, even the closest people of you could receive the false message. When I post about depression, stress or bad circumstances, it doesn't mean that I'm the one or my current closest people suffering it. It could be just imaginary brainstorm. When I post about all the fun, it doesn't mean that is my ultimate happiness. When I post about life events, it doesn't mean it's currently happening. It's no secret that some time I shut myself down from people. When I test it, by shutting down particular people and giving the only chance to see what's going on with my life through my social media, with addition observing the way they look other people's social media. They failed to see the true side of the subject. On one side, they don't want to interfere. On the other side, simply just a narrow mind to profile other's life by what they serve in public space. Wake up people! It's just an iceberg! When I say don't generalize people from what they want to show you in social media, and not all they share is telling you what's going on! They don't understand! What matters is what they see. And from how much you could see, if it's juicy, you must squeeze it! Hey, not all people sharing to get attention and giving answer. Some share stories seeking for answer you don't need to give. Endless question with endless answer. Either for themselves or others.
Public Approval
Remember the saying; "The limit of basic human right is other person's human rights". Freedom is bullshit. They keep saying "Be You!" but all they show is "Be You, but not that way!". I learnt that people could easily admire your petal of rose but unable to endure the thorn. It's getting clearer as I relate it with my bipolarity. People get thrilled during my normal episodes, but unable to handle me during my depressive or hypomanic periods. People love the side of me which is positive and cheerful, but unable to handle the eternal storm inside of me. They like my post about positivity, tasty food, fun friends and activities, unique experiences, happiness; but they dislike my post about negativity, sexual innuendos, sarcasm, anger and revenge. I understand if they have their own battle and choose positivity over negativity. That's what make them approve me to be the positive person, and direct me to choose bright path during my negative storm. You know, it's not always the ultimate solution! Not all red ledger stamped into your book of life is easy to be wiped out. The other reason related with point one on society standard is, they would approve as long as you follow their standard. My bad-ass side doesn't define that I'm a woman for no man, I'm a daughter for no mom, I'm a sister for no friend. My hatred to one man doesn't define that I won't surrender my whole self to the chosen one. My revenge to my mom doesn't define that I couldn't make her happy and proud. My social anxiety doesn't define that I won't be able to function as a good friend. It's silly when you need to get approval to be yourself. Don't they even understand the struggle of accepting our true self? It's exhausting especially for what they call as "abnormal" human being.
Finally, social media is just like when you go to a store and see the display window. You're not gonna buy and bring it home anyway. If it doesn't harm you, why should you use it to narrowly define and attack the subject? You may have your all assumption and opinion about other human being, but your nose still belongs to your face!